00:00:00: Hello and welcome to the podcast, Life is a Way.

00:00:03: Today, part two of the series Body, Spirit and Soul.

00:00:07: Today it's the spirit's turn and of course Jen is also part

00:00:11: of the spirit.

00:00:12: And yes, she's of course also part of it. Welcome, nice to

00:00:18: have you here.

00:00:19: Thank you.

00:00:21: For you.

00:00:21: Ah guys, invitation.

00:00:26: Jen is also part of the spirit, yes.

00:00:28: That's funny.

00:00:30: Yes, super nice that you're back and super nice that you're

00:00:35: watching and listening again.

00:00:36: Another note, this podcast is not only an audio podcast,

00:00:39: but also a video podcast.

00:00:41: And you can see it if you want, so also on YouTube, the

00:00:45: link is in the description.

00:00:47: Okay, today it's supposed to be about the topic of spirit.

00:00:54: And first of all, a question that we got asked, because we

00:01:01: thought that we would like to answer the questions from the

00:01:04: community again today on the topic and fill this episode

00:01:08: with it.

00:01:10: And the first question is, what is the difference between

00:01:14: spirit and soul?

00:01:16: Or spirit and soul, whatever is first.

00:01:20: Do you like it, because I think you could probably give a

00:01:25: more valid answer than I do.

00:01:28: Your opinion on what the difference is between spirit and

00:01:32: soul.

00:01:32: I don't know, I don't think so.

00:01:36: I'm curious about yours.

00:01:39: I was just about to ask you, what do you think?

00:01:42: No right no wrong.

00:01:44: Okay, okay, let's do it like this.

00:01:46: So what is the difference between spirit and soul for me?

00:01:48: The part of our spirit is the consciousness.

00:01:58: So what makes us human, what makes us think differently

00:02:08: from other living beings.

00:02:10: That we have a consciousness and an extremely complex brain

00:02:17: that can think, can invent great things, but can also do

00:02:24: very stupid things and can get sick.

00:02:29: So it's so complex that I don't think it's even possible to

00:02:33: describe what our consciousness is, what our spirit is.

00:02:38: And for me, the soul is something even more superior in

00:02:42: terms of structure, in terms of understanding.

00:02:47: The soul is basically something inexplicable, but what is

00:02:54: inside us, what makes us, what is in our body.

00:03:03: And at birth, fire starts and then this life begins to pass

00:03:11: with us.

00:03:12: I can't really put it into words what I would otherwise

00:03:16: call the soul.

00:03:17: You also say that the soul cannot die and after our

00:03:21: physical death, the death of our body,

00:03:24: that the soul then goes on and maybe reincarnates in a new

00:03:29: body at some point.

00:03:31: That's what I would say about the soul. What is the

00:03:37: difference?

00:03:38: Yes, that was great.

00:03:44: Sounds good, I can go with a lot.

00:03:47: Everything we both say is super individual and true from

00:03:53: that point of view, because we perceive the world from

00:03:59: different life realities.

00:04:02: Because the science also disputes what the spirit is, what

00:04:06: the soul is.

00:04:07: I could probably hit the dune, then there would probably be

00:04:11: some definition in there, but I didn't look at it.

00:04:16: Depending on the discipline, depending on the philosophy in

00:04:20: which you move, the spirit is understood as something

00:04:23: different.

00:04:24: So a lot, as you just said, and how we treat the spirit

00:04:28: today is more of this level of understanding.

00:04:33: That is the synonym for today's episode.

00:04:38: There is the level of understanding, the beliefs that are

00:04:43: all stored here, the whole mindset-mindset work.

00:04:48: And you can also call consciousness part of the spirit.

00:04:54: For example, it's not wrong.

00:04:58: Personally, I would be conscious of writing the soul.

00:05:08: But who is right now, who is wrong? That's not the point.

00:05:14: It's something indescribable, what you just said.

00:05:18: Especially the soul, how do you want to put it into words,

00:05:21: into letters, into words that are unreachable, that are

00:05:26: limitless, that are formless?

00:05:30: But still, I would say that consciousness is also something

00:05:39: limitless, formless, something perceiving.

00:05:44: Consciousness is something that perceives, somehow, somehow

00:05:49: over-ordinated.

00:05:50: So I would rather over-order the mind, the spirit.

00:05:54: But in this episode, I was more of the mind, the synonym

00:06:03: for the spirit.

00:06:05: And the soul, as you said, is the divine spark for me.

00:06:17: The soul is, I can, wow, it's hard to describe.

00:06:25: It's the indescribable, the unreachable, the formless, the

00:06:29: limitless, which is your core.

00:06:34: What Benjamin does to Benjamin and what Jen does to Jen.

00:06:39: We are all the same, we are all one.

00:06:41: And then there is this one divine spark, this one core of

00:06:45: being that only you have, that only I have, and that

00:06:51: somehow has a kind of order.

00:06:55: Decisions, Dharma is what you call it in yoga.

00:06:59: And our decisions, our experiences that we want to collect

00:07:03: are all so different.

00:07:04: And I would rather talk about that to the soul, to this

00:07:10: soul part.

00:07:12: Yes, and it's, yes, it's overwhelming me and I have no

00:07:15: answer to it.

00:07:16: I don't know.

00:07:18: I know I don't know anything.

00:07:21: It's a field of absolute limitlessness and that you lose

00:07:26: yourself and become crazy.

00:07:28: And beautiful.

00:07:31: Yes, yes, I think that, to maybe introduce that again, that

00:07:38: this topic is very abstract compared to the first topic of

00:07:43: the body.

00:07:44: Because we can all touch it somehow, more or less make it

00:07:48: tangible.

00:07:49: And that's a bit more abstract and also has a lot to do

00:07:52: with your own interpretation.

00:07:55: But the question was very specific here.

00:07:57: What is the difference between soul and spirit from your

00:07:59: point of view?

00:08:00: So that's our point of view.

00:08:01: And I think we answered that very well.

00:08:06: The next question came in here.

00:08:10: How can I be calmer or more relaxed and put off the thought

00:08:16: carousel?

00:08:17: And I made a few key points for that.

00:08:25: In total, that's five.

00:08:28: So my tip would be, for example, meditation, mindfulness

00:08:33: meditation.

00:08:34: As a meditation teacher, you can sing a song, I hope.

00:08:41: Then there are, of course, relaxation techniques that you

00:08:46: could try out.

00:08:48: Then of course the yoga or the part of yoga that is

00:08:53: associated with the movement exercises.

00:08:58: Is that the Hatha yoga?

00:09:00: Or what is the part of yoga that describes the movements?

00:09:05: Hatha yoga, exactly.

00:09:07: Or progressive muscle relaxation.

00:09:11: There are different yoga styles.

00:09:14: But the Asa, there is also Ayanga yoga, Ashtanga, all these

00:09:20: physical movements.

00:09:22: But exactly, classic Hatha.

00:09:25: That's all I wanted to say.

00:09:27: Then I wrote down general movement, so sports driving.

00:09:33: Because the body, especially when you are stressed or have

00:09:38: such a thought carousel,

00:09:41: if you don't feel so comfortable in your skin, you can take

00:09:45: a break.

00:09:45: So that the body can really move and let out all the energy

00:09:50: or can convert.

00:09:51: So that it doesn't get stung.

00:09:53: Then Mietain is also very important.

00:09:57: That's a nice new German word.

00:09:59: I don't know if it's already reached the men.

00:10:05: But I think many women have already understood that.

00:10:08: At least that's how I see it.

00:10:11: Then the second point is to really look at these thought

00:10:17: patterns from the thought circles,

00:10:19: from this thought carousel, more closely.

00:10:24: Where do these thought patterns come from?

00:10:29: Is that something you've really experienced before?

00:10:32: Or is that just a fear?

00:10:36: Depending on what you think or the thought carousel.

00:10:41: But it was specifically about being calmer and more relaxed

00:10:44: .

00:10:45: Or as an alternative step, which also includes my work,

00:10:51: to talk to a coach and see if you can do something like

00:10:59: that in a direct 1 to 1 company.

00:11:02: That's what I think about how to be calmer and more relaxed

00:11:08: .

00:11:08: What do you think about that?

00:11:10: Yes, yes, above all, everything resonates with me very well

00:11:16: .

00:11:16: To add, I was just thinking instinctively ice bathing.

00:11:20: So if you can't do it, you can't have salad on top.

00:11:28: Ice bathing, cold training, get yourself back to the

00:11:34: present immediately.

00:11:36: And breathing techniques too.

00:11:39: You can be part of meditation.

00:11:42: A lot of breathing techniques that make you calmer and more

00:11:47: relaxed.

00:11:48: Box breathing as a keyword.

00:11:51: Box breathing?

00:11:53: Box breathing.

00:11:55: You breathe in a four rhythm, at the same time, hold your

00:12:01: breath and then out again.

00:12:02: For example, you breathe in for four seconds, then hold

00:12:06: your breath for four seconds,

00:12:07: then breathe out for four seconds and then hold your breath

00:12:10: for four seconds again.

00:12:11: That's why it's called a box.

00:12:13: I understand. Cool.

00:12:15: Or the heart-chorengy breathing, meditation.

00:12:19: You just breathe in for five seconds and out for five

00:12:23: seconds, but without a break.

00:12:25: There are a lot of wonderful breathing techniques in Kundal

00:12:29: ini Yoga.

00:12:29: So breathing is always a tool that calms the heart-choreg

00:12:37: system, makes it calmer.

00:12:39: And then you've said everything. Meditation, yoga. And don

00:12:50: 't fight against it.

00:12:51: Fighting also does what it can.

00:12:55: In everything you can transfer to everything.

00:12:57: As soon as you fight against something, it stays.

00:13:01: It's a law.

00:13:03: If you want to have something else, you reject it, then it

00:13:06: comes back again and again.

00:13:07: So you can also look at it.

00:13:09: What you might mean by coaching.

00:13:11: Maybe with the coach you can also look at why this is

00:13:14: always there.

00:13:15: These thought spirals. Which thought spirals are they?

00:13:17: And what topic is it always on?

00:13:19: And how can I approach the topic behind it?

00:13:23: Behind this pattern, behind this fear. What's behind it?

00:13:27: And then there's a technique that I use, because I have the

00:13:33: extreme.

00:13:33: My head is also 24-7. My crown is open.

00:13:37: And there's always something going on. I always have

00:13:40: pictures in my head and spirit sparks.

00:13:43: And I can do that very well by deciding, and that's

00:13:52: something you can do with your will power,

00:13:53: with your spirit power, to stay on the topic.

00:13:57: With your will power, which I'm writing to the spirit,

00:14:03: decide from now on only 10%.

00:14:05: Only think 10%. Only 10% up here.

00:14:07: Or only 60%, whatever you need right now.

00:14:11: But I'm a guy, for example, I'm at 160% generally always.

00:14:15: And then I can say, now only 60%.

00:14:19: And when I'm at 60%, I'm actually like other people at 100

00:14:25: %.

00:14:25: And you can do that, and it works for me.

00:14:28: It's really multiple. I can count it by hand when the

00:14:32: technique didn't work.

00:14:32: And that's okay, it has reasons.

00:14:35: But at 95% it's like that, because I make the decision.

00:14:40: Because I want it.

00:14:42: From my will power.

00:14:45: And then this thought process is suddenly only 10% strong.

00:14:51: I like to try it out. It helps me a lot.

00:14:55: It really works more than ever.

00:14:59: I've never heard of this technique, but it definitely

00:15:03: sounds interesting.

00:15:04: It taught me my lesson.

00:15:07: I really suffer from it a lot.

00:15:12: It's a burden for me, depending on what I'm doing right now

00:15:16: .

00:15:16: And when I need rest, it's also phase dependent.

00:15:20: And when it's stressful, I have more of it.

00:15:24: But when I do something that's not useful to me,

00:15:30: when it comes to the carousel, I use this technique.

00:15:35: And it helped me a lot, because she recommended it to me.

00:15:38: And I was amazed.

00:15:40: Everything in life is a decision you make.

00:15:44: And when it really comes from you, from the inside,

00:15:48: when your intention is clear, clear, clear, from the heart,

00:15:55: then all doors and gates open in all areas of life.

00:15:59: Not only if your thought process stops, if you suddenly get

00:16:03: healthy,

00:16:03: if you suddenly get the job, the dream partner.

00:16:07: If you want and the intention is clear and from the heart,

00:16:11: then what shouldn't work?

00:16:13: Yes, that's right.

00:16:15: That's the power of the mind.

00:16:19: Yes, that's right.

00:16:22: I've already been able to learn that.

00:16:26: Yes, because the topic of meditation was already there,

00:16:33: there was an answer.

00:16:35: The question was, how do I start meditating?

00:16:38: It's hard for me to think.

00:16:41: Do you have a tip that goes directly to you?

00:16:45: Yes, I have a great tip.

00:16:49: A super-awesome tip.

00:16:53: The best way, the best tip to be successful in meditation

00:17:00: is

00:17:00: just start.

00:17:02: Please.

00:17:05: I know, there is no secret.

00:17:08: I want to demystify that.

00:17:11: I want to demystify this whole area of spirituality,

00:17:15: meditation, yoga,

00:17:15: tantra, because so many mysteries are still being tackled

00:17:21: around by other teachers,

00:17:23: by other coaches, that it takes this and that to do this

00:17:27: and that.

00:17:28: Then it's successful and better.

00:17:31: Just start.

00:17:34: You can't do anything wrong.

00:17:38: It's similar to the last episode with the body, where the

00:17:42: question was,

00:17:42: how can I be more flexible?

00:17:44: What was the question?

00:17:46: The question was, how can I be more flexible, more steering

00:17:53: , to do yoga?

00:17:54: Or something like that.

00:17:56: It's exactly the same.

00:17:59: You don't have to be more steering, more flexible to be

00:18:03: able to do yoga, but you will be more steering,

00:18:08: more flexible with every yoga lesson, more comfortable,

00:18:11: more disciplined.

00:18:11: You don't have to be ready-made to go to yoga.

00:18:14: And it's the same with meditation.

00:18:17: Up here, the thought carousel can be on fire.

00:18:21: Crab salad in your head, a full basket can be there, take

00:18:27: it with you to your pillow.

00:18:30: The claim is not that you have to be empty, that the mind

00:18:34: has to be calm.

00:18:34: Then you don't have to meditate anymore.

00:18:37: If the mind is calm, you don't have to meditate anymore.

00:18:40: The goal of meditation is not that your mind is empty for

00:18:44: the first time.

00:18:45: It's nice to have, it's an add-on and it happens along the

00:18:51: way. The more regularly you do it,

00:18:52: you will always experience longer states where the mind is

00:18:56: calm.

00:18:56: But that's not the goal of meditation at all.

00:18:59: The goal of meditation is awareness, mindfulness of

00:19:06: everything that is there.

00:19:06: And then you just take a shopping list.

00:19:10: Okay, how to get back to breathing.

00:19:13: Aha, the appointment later. Okay.

00:19:16: Back to breathing.

00:19:18: The fight from last week with my husband.

00:19:20: Okay, back to breathing.

00:19:22: That will probably happen to me when you start meditating.

00:19:26: By the way, I still meditate.

00:19:28: Let me lie.

00:19:30: For six years now.

00:19:32: Every day.

00:19:34: It happens to me regularly, still constantly.

00:19:38: I don't have a state where I'm in a novena for half an hour

00:19:43: . I don't have that.

00:19:44: That's meditation.

00:19:46: The perception that there is a thought, that there is a

00:19:51: feeling, that there is a body feeling.

00:19:53: And then not to evaluate that as good or bad, but simply to

00:19:59: let go of what comes up.

00:19:59: As they say in the sky, the thought that comes up, the

00:20:04: feeling, the physical feeling, the yoke,

00:20:07: the pain in the lower back.

00:20:09: Realize that it is there and let it pass like a bug in the

00:20:14: sky.

00:20:14: That's actually the actual meditation practice.

00:20:18: That's what it's about when you start.

00:20:21: And to be mild with you.

00:20:24: To be very mild, very loving with you.

00:20:27: To let go of the demand. You have to be ready-made.

00:20:30: You have to be a Zen Buddhist to be able to sit on your

00:20:35: pillow.

00:20:35: You don't have to. Come ready-made. Come with your noise in

00:20:40: your head.

00:20:40: Come with your unrest, with your nervousness.

00:20:43: With every time, it always takes a little more.

00:20:47: Unexpected.

00:20:49: Playfully too. Also there, go very playfully, without being

00:20:53: strict.

00:20:53: Yes.

00:20:55: And what you just said also applies to other areas of life.

00:21:00: I have had this in my environment very often and often and

00:21:06: myself.

00:21:06: I've had these thoughts too, but I'm of the opinion, I've

00:21:10: mostly rejected

00:21:11: to always say, if you have a certain goal, especially in

00:21:16: the area of

00:21:16: independence or you don't have to be professional, but just

00:21:21: that you learn something new,

00:21:21: what you pass on to others.

00:21:23: For example, if you are a yoga teacher now.

00:21:27: Yes, yoga teacher is a great example.

00:21:30: What was it like for you when it was said, you now have

00:21:34: your first yoga class

00:21:36: in front of five people and you are now the host, you have

00:21:41: to teach that now.

00:21:43: So I can imagine that you're excited at first and say, no,

00:21:49: I'm not ready yet,

00:21:49: I'm not ready yet, I'm not this and that, I'm not this and

00:21:53: that.

00:21:53: But you don't have to be perfect because that's nobody.

00:21:58: And even the biggest stars who are standing in front of 10,

00:22:01: 000 people are excited

00:22:03: when they go on stage, that's part of it.

00:22:06: And you don't always have to be perfect to do something,

00:22:11: but you should really just do it.

00:22:14: Also in other areas.

00:22:17: Exactly, amen.

00:22:19: I can only underline it, exactly.

00:22:23: Take out the seriousness, take out the strictness.

00:22:28: Playfully, loosely, if it doesn't work, not for long,

00:22:31: not in meditation, not in the claim of sitting in silence

00:22:34: for 20 minutes.

00:22:35: No, we start with two minutes, then three, then five

00:22:40: minutes,

00:22:40: at some point you're at ten and you won't be in silence for

00:22:44: ten minutes.

00:22:44: You will be visiting thoughts and feelings all the time and

00:22:48: that's wonderful.

00:22:48: It has to be like that.

00:22:50: And slowly, start, step by step.

00:22:54: Yes, definitely.

00:22:59: Yes, Lilo would also like to contribute to the podcast

00:23:03: briefly.

00:23:03: I'll ask you to take it easy again.

00:23:07: I'll just continue with the next question.

00:23:13: And we'll take it now. Please, Lilo.

00:23:18: That's a nice question.

00:23:22: How do I deal with fears and negative beliefs?

00:23:26: How can I solve them?

00:23:28: How do I deal with fears and negative beliefs?

00:23:30: So I think we can both say something about fears.

00:23:34: Negative beliefs too.

00:23:36: I'll just start if it's okay for you.

00:23:38: Yes, of course, since you're in a special area, I just

00:23:41: wanted to suggest it.

00:23:41: Okay, thank you.

00:23:43: Lilo is a special area.

00:23:46: Who is Lilo? I think people know who Lilo is.

00:23:49: Lilo is the little cute mouse that always barks in the

00:23:53: background.

00:23:54: Yes, exactly.

00:23:56: A dog.

00:23:57: Lilo is a little dog that lives here.

00:24:01: And he's often a little bit like that, to share with.

00:24:08: So how do I deal with fears and negative beliefs?

00:24:11: Let's start with part one of the question.

00:24:13: It's a very big question.

00:24:17: You could make your own podcast out of it.

00:24:20: But I'll try to do it anyway.

00:24:22: First of all, accept fears.

00:24:25: Fears are basically something good that has been provided

00:24:30: to us by evolution.

00:24:32: That we can survive at all.

00:24:35: That we don't jump off the balcony when we want to go out.

00:24:40: Instead, we take the stairs.

00:24:42: Fear of heights.

00:24:44: To explain it in a humorous way.

00:24:48: So basically, fear of something good.

00:24:50: Fear can become a problem and disturb us when it restricts

00:24:57: us to do certain things.

00:25:00: Or things that we didn't do before.

00:25:04: Or even a fear of disturbance.

00:25:07: I can sing a song about that.

00:25:09: Jen too.

00:25:11: Who's closest to that?

00:25:13: We won't go into our fears so explicitly.

00:25:17: But there are other episodes with you and me.

00:25:21: Where we go into more detail.

00:25:23: What was accompanying us.

00:25:27: And how we got out of it.

00:25:29: So it's important to accept that.

00:25:32: And then to see if this fear is really justified.

00:25:38: Or if it's possibly unjustified.

00:25:42: And that can be tried to find out.

00:25:50: This fear that you're going through right now.

00:25:54: Do other people have that too?

00:25:56: In a broad sense or not?

00:25:58: For me, for example, fear of driving a car.

00:26:00: I look out of the window and see hundreds of cars driving

00:26:06: by the door every day.

00:26:06: And I assume that these people don't have all the fear of

00:26:09: driving a car.

00:26:10: Of course, driving a car is dangerous.

00:26:12: Accidents can happen.

00:26:14: People die every day driving a car.

00:26:16: But 99.999% of people driving a car get out of it alive and

00:26:22: healthy.

00:26:23: So the fear of driving a car in general is not justified.

00:26:28: That's pretty safe.

00:26:30: And it's getting safer and safer.

00:26:32: Because cars can brake by themselves.

00:26:34: And they have airbags and seat belts.

00:26:37: So that's the first thing.

00:26:39: To the fears.

00:26:41: Negative beliefs.

00:26:43: Is the same approach.

00:26:47: I'm trying to find an example for a negative belief.

00:26:51: For example, the belief that I'm stupid.

00:26:55: If I had the belief that I'm stupid.

00:27:00: Then I can look at where it comes from.

00:27:04: Was it ever said to me by third parties?

00:27:10: Was it indoctrinated by constant repetition?

00:27:15: Or was there an experience where it really was presented

00:27:20: that you are not as strong in a certain area as someone

00:27:24: else?

00:27:24: The word stupid is really so negatively affected.

00:27:27: But we had that in the previous conversation.

00:27:30: You can't concentrate too much on the not very strong

00:27:35: qualities of yourself.

00:27:36: But on your own strengths.

00:27:38: Strengthen the strengths is a nice sentence that I often

00:27:45: heard in my training.

00:27:46: I always thought that was great.

00:27:49: How do you get out of these negative thoughts?

00:27:54: My first impulse, but that is of course also connected to

00:27:59: my work.

00:27:59: Get the coach.

00:28:01: Or at least talk to the coach.

00:28:03: And see if you can find someone who can help you in this

00:28:07: special area.

00:28:08: The offer to every listener.

00:28:11: Just call me and see what are the negative beliefs that are

00:28:18: so present in you.

00:28:19: And I'll see if I can help you.

00:28:23: I can't help everyone, so to speak.

00:28:26: In every problem.

00:28:28: And recognize these thoughts.

00:28:34: And really look where they come from.

00:28:38: And they are true.

00:28:42: Is that a fact?

00:28:44: If I have a belief that I am stupid, can I define it in

00:28:48: general?

00:28:49: No, no way.

00:28:51: There is no one who is bad in all areas of life and in all

00:28:56: topics and can't say anything.

00:28:57: And for example, there is also very broad-mindedness.

00:29:01: Thank God, that will be the subject of foreign languages.

00:29:05: I can't speak fluent perfect English.

00:29:08: And it works for many, at least some, who are similar in my

00:29:12: environment, in my age.

00:29:15: Young people, 10 years younger or who are now in school, I

00:29:23: think,

00:29:23: are lucky that they can learn foreign languages, especially

00:29:26: English, much better and more joyfully.

00:29:30: Because there are many more possibilities to encounter

00:29:34: foreign languages with fun.

00:29:36: You can watch Netflix series on original sound and so on.

00:29:40: There was no such thing back then in the prime phase when I

00:29:43: had English in school.

00:29:44: But that's why I'm not stupid, only because I can speak

00:29:47: English perfectly, as I would like to.

00:29:49: So just look at it.

00:29:53: Is that just a small area in your life that you might not

00:29:57: be quite so strong?

00:29:58: And now you've broken it down to other beliefs, to really

00:30:02: look at whether they are true.

00:30:04: That was quite exasperating.

00:30:08: I'll say it like Forrest Gump, that's all I can say about

00:30:13: it.

00:30:13: Yes, that's great. And to add to that, it reminds me a bit

00:30:19: of the work by Byron Katie.

00:30:20: It's a great method. This checking if it's really true.

00:30:25: I'm really stupid. For example, the example, I'm stupid, is

00:30:29: a great technique.

00:30:29: I can only recommend the book by Byron Katie, The Work,

00:30:33: which is also available in German.

00:30:34: What's it called in German? I think it's Love What Is.

00:30:39: I think, Love What Is.

00:30:42: I'll put it in the show notes.

00:30:45: And that's the sentence, for example, I'm stupid. Is it

00:30:48: really true?

00:30:49: And then you ask yourself, is it really true? Then the

00:30:52: answer comes, maybe yes, it's true, I'm stupid.

00:30:54: Then the second question is, is it really true? Can you

00:30:59: really be sure that it's true?

00:31:01: And then there may still be a yes, but maybe a no. Most

00:31:07: likely, a no.

00:31:07: But even if there's a yes, it's okay.

00:31:10: And then, I don't think the third question is right.

00:31:16: Maybe you can also write it in the show notes. But the

00:31:19: fourth is definitely a reverse.

00:31:21: That you reverse the sentence and find examples for it.

00:31:25: The reverse is, for example, I'm smart.

00:31:31: And then you find examples from reality, from your past,

00:31:37: where this is confirmed.

00:31:39: For example, you once wrote a German dictation in third

00:31:44: grade and got a two.

00:31:46: You have, you know, another example.

00:31:51: You will definitely, that's also a funny evolutionary story

00:31:58: from our brain.

00:31:58: If you ask an open question, I'm smart and I want to find

00:32:03: an example for it.

00:32:04: Your brain has to close this loop.

00:32:06: You open a loop with a question and your brain is so

00:32:11: organized that it wants to find answers.

00:32:12: It doesn't like open loops. That's sometimes hindering in

00:32:18: this thought carousel example,

00:32:18: that it always wants to answer.

00:32:20: But in such cases, that's really good.

00:32:23: Because you suddenly find examples why you are smart, why

00:32:28: you are worth loving, why you are valuable,

00:32:30: why life is easy, why all men are wonderful, whatever your

00:32:36: belief was.

00:32:37: And then you find examples from the past. And if it's not

00:32:43: in your life, you can also look at others.

00:32:44: Look outside, by the way. Otherwise I always recommend

00:32:48: looking inside.

00:32:49: But look outside, where do you find outside, if it's not in

00:32:53: your life, but outside examples,

00:32:55: where there are examples that men are wonderful, that life

00:32:59: is easy, that life means joy, whatever.

00:33:05: And then you find examples for it.

00:33:08: And that's a great technique that leads you to the

00:33:12: conclusion that it's not true that you are stupid.

00:33:16: And these are small steps. I find the technique very

00:33:22: powerful.

00:33:22: And these are small steps, just like you can deal with

00:33:26: negative beliefs, for example.

00:33:28: Otherwise I would like to emphasize again, I see it very

00:33:31: clearly, like you.

00:33:32: The very first thing you said was acceptance.

00:33:37: Especially in relation to fears, of course. But also from

00:33:40: negative beliefs.

00:33:41: They have a justification. That you think that it makes

00:33:46: sense that you are afraid.

00:33:48: It saved your ass at some point. You don't have to

00:33:52: understand why that is.

00:33:53: And why you think that. It's nice to have. You can also put

00:33:57: everything into a conversation therapy.

00:34:01: Why it's there now is an add-on. If you know that, you don

00:34:06: 't have to.

00:34:06: You don't need to know the reason for the resolution.

00:34:08: It will be very useful to you at some point that you have

00:34:11: grasped this belief set.

00:34:12: And that the fear is there now will help you somehow. You

00:34:16: can trust that.

00:34:17: And then complete recognition of this fear, this belief set

00:34:22: .

00:34:22: Only when that happens, a full-body yes, take

00:34:28: responsibility too.

00:34:29: Full-body yes to your own shit, which you have created for

00:34:33: yourself.

00:34:34: Our life is a reflection of our inner belief set and

00:34:39: convictions.

00:34:40: Radical acceptance to this belief set, to this fear.

00:34:45: And only then you can let it go, in quotation marks. Res

00:34:51: olve, in quotation marks.

00:34:51: You just let it be. That's more like my approach, my

00:34:56: language.

00:34:57: It has to be there. And it doesn't control you anymore.

00:35:00: Otherwise it controls you. If you push it away, if you don

00:35:04: 't accept it, if you reject it, it controls you.

00:35:07: And if you can go with it in peace, complete acceptance,

00:35:11: even love,

00:35:13: with love and dignity, look at these parts,

00:35:17: then they don't control you anymore, but you control them,

00:35:20: in quotation marks.

00:35:21: So you can let it be. It's nothing that unknowingly

00:35:26: controls you anymore.

00:35:28: It's parallel, it can be there, but it's nothing that

00:35:33: influences you anymore.

00:35:34: What controls your life. But you sit on the steering wheel

00:35:40: again.

00:35:40: But for that, this step you said has to happen first,

00:35:44: complete acceptance.

00:35:45: Without that, it doesn't work.

00:35:47: It's a pull-out. It's a short process. There are many

00:35:51: things, especially in the mindset area.

00:35:52: There are many techniques that you use to grow your fears

00:35:55: and beliefs.

00:35:55: But on mindset work, it dissolves in the long run.

00:36:00: Nothing if you don't take the body with you and this self-

00:36:03: responsibility, this self-acceptance,

00:36:06: self-responsibility in particular, it has to be taken with

00:36:11: you, otherwise it will get you back in.

00:36:13: You can then, in the short term, with a few affirmations

00:36:18: that you tell yourself,

00:36:19: in the short term, also fix that well.

00:36:23: But in the long term, mindset is not enough. Especially not

00:36:27: in the narrowest of areas.

00:36:28: And especially not, so the most important step is simply

00:36:32: complete acceptance and acceptance.

00:36:33: And nothing happens before that.

00:36:36: Because that is suddenly very easy and very fast.

00:36:42: And you don't need a three-year-old therapy.

00:36:46: It can be done very easily and quickly, with fears too.

00:36:51: From my own experience, yes, and yours.

00:36:55: True.

00:36:59: We have another question of fear.

00:37:04: Which is, how can I become braver and overcome the fear of

00:37:10: rejection?

00:37:11: How can I become braver and overcome the fear of rejection

00:37:16: to realize my dreams?

00:37:16: How can I become braver and overcome the fear of rejection

00:37:20: to realize my dreams?

00:37:21: What do you think?

00:37:24: I was just at the last question, whether we really answered

00:37:27: that.

00:37:27: What was the second part of the question? How can we solve

00:37:30: it?

00:37:30: But do we have indirect, or do we have to be more specific?

00:37:33: No, so...

00:37:35: So, first of all, the resolution through acceptance.

00:37:38: And the first step is to recognize.

00:37:43: Recognize.

00:37:47: Accept and then let go.

00:37:50: These are actually three good steps.

00:37:53: Here's my hand.

00:37:56: In general, with all things you struggle with.

00:38:00: First recognize, then accept and then let go.

00:38:04: My coach always told me that if I don't take the pen in my

00:38:12: hand, I can't let go.

00:38:14: That's why acceptance is so important.

00:38:17: Yes.

00:38:19: And...

00:38:22: Yes, exactly. And I know, help searching.

00:38:25: Help searching. From my own experience.

00:38:28: Especially when we talk about fears that blame you, that

00:38:33: influence you in your freedom.

00:38:34: Please get help. You don't have to do it alone.

00:38:37: To ask for help is a great, great strength.

00:38:40: I was also allowed to recognize you last year.

00:38:43: It's also a belief set in me that I liked last year.

00:38:47: To show uncertainty is dangerous for me, I thought for a

00:38:51: long time.

00:38:51: To ask for help means weakness. I solved that last year,

00:38:55: too. I didn't know.

00:38:56: To ask for help is brave and strong.

00:38:59: It's safe to ask for help. It's safe to show yourself

00:39:03: vulnerable.

00:39:03: Especially when we talk about fears.

00:39:06: Please get help. That's very important.

00:39:09: No sign of weakness. On the contrary, it means so much

00:39:13: courage to show yourself in your fears.

00:39:16: Sometimes it helps to have a helping hand that takes a more

00:39:23: neutral position

00:39:24: and gives new perspectives.

00:39:27: Especially when we are in the field of panic attacks,

00:39:31: a state of fear where we can both sing a song.

00:39:35: Please get a coach, a therapist, whatever helps you.

00:39:43: Get help. That's very valuable.

00:39:48: That's right.

00:39:51: How can I become braver and overcome the fear of rejection

00:39:58: to change my dreams?

00:40:00: There's a lot in the question.

00:40:05: The fear of rejection is there, but someone has goals and

00:40:11: dreams,

00:40:11: but doesn't dare to take the steps because the fear of

00:40:16: rejection is there.

00:40:18: Do you have a tip?

00:40:21: I'd like to hear the question in your corner.

00:40:24: The ball would roll in your corner.

00:40:27: I'd like to start.

00:40:29: What would you recommend?

00:40:32: I'll start from the back.

00:40:35: Because that's where the core is.

00:40:38: To realize your dreams, make a clear intention why you want

00:40:55: to achieve these dreams.

00:40:58: You can also say why.

00:41:04: Why do you want to achieve these dreams? What's the

00:41:10: intention behind it?

00:41:10: And then, when you have made this clear intention,

00:41:13: that you really want to achieve this goal, whatever it is.

00:41:18: Freedom, financial independence, these are classic goals,

00:41:24: at least in my bubble with the people I have contact with.

00:41:30: And when I have made this clear intention,

00:41:34: that I want to be free by the end of the year,

00:41:39: then we come back to this having to be.

00:41:42: You have to be someone first, then you come into being,

00:41:47: and then you will achieve this goal, then you come to have

00:41:50: it.

00:41:50: You can't just say, I want this and that,

00:41:55: and when I got that as a reward,

00:41:58: or bought this TV for a loan, or I made this trip,

00:42:03: then I am motivated and then I do it.

00:42:05: It mostly doesn't work.

00:42:08: And to get to the fear of rejection,

00:42:12: you can also really, on the one hand,

00:42:15: when the rejection comes,

00:42:20: the rejection is mostly not directed at you as a person,

00:42:25: because the people you communicate with,

00:42:28: whether it is network marketing,

00:42:30: or whether you are a yoga teacher or want to become one,

00:42:35: that you are afraid that people will say,

00:42:37: no, yoga is nothing for me, or these products are nothing

00:42:41: for me.

00:42:41: Then you can quickly recognize that this rejection

00:42:44: is only directed at you and not at yourself.

00:42:48: Because the person you talk to about it,

00:42:50: the person you make the offer to,

00:42:52: you probably already know them before,

00:42:54: but he doesn't reject you.

00:42:56: And then just take it as normal

00:42:59: and then just continue and move on to the next one.

00:43:03: Rejection will always occur somewhere,

00:43:06: because not everyone likes every meal.

00:43:12: You can be the best five-star chef in the world

00:43:15: if you present the best beef steak

00:43:18: with the most expensive pepper and it is perfectly fried.

00:43:22: The vegan will not eat it, it will not taste good.

00:43:26: And so it is with everything.

00:43:28: Rejection will always come somewhere,

00:43:32: whether it is politics, whether it is sport,

00:43:34: whether it is your personal environment.

00:43:36: You can't please everyone.

00:43:38: And you don't have to please everyone.

00:43:41: That is, I think, the final thing to say.

00:43:44: And then the fear disappears before rejection,

00:43:48: in my case, in my experience,

00:43:50: but actually completely on my own.

00:43:52: If you know that it is not you who is against rejection,

00:43:56: but against your offer

00:43:58: and that you can't do everything right to anyone.

00:44:02: Exactly. Absolutely. I see that exactly.

00:44:08: And to add to the last point,

00:44:10: what you said,

00:44:12: that the other person does not reject you,

00:44:16: your essence, your essence, your soul,

00:44:22: what you are,

00:44:24: but your counterpart always rejects the image

00:44:27: that the other person has of you.

00:44:31: Your counterpart projects something on you,

00:44:35: in pure projection,

00:44:37: your counterpart projects something on you

00:44:39: because of his experiences, his life reality.

00:44:43: And his assumptions.

00:44:46: And he rejects this image of you, not you.

00:44:49: What you are is not threatening.

00:44:55: What you are cannot be hurt.

00:44:58: It's just this image that another person has of you.

00:45:01: I see it exactly like you.

00:45:05: I would say in addition, or repeat,

00:45:12: it doesn't matter how we also had it,

00:45:15: complete acceptance of your fear of rejection.

00:45:19: It serves you.

00:45:21: Recognize why it is there.

00:45:24: It is an ancient survival instinct in us.

00:45:27: We used to be herdsmen, still.

00:45:29: We are herdsmen, we are herdsmen.

00:45:31: We only survive in groups, in connections.

00:45:33: We need closeness, we need intimacy,

00:45:35: otherwise we take care of each other.

00:45:37: There are these experiments with babies.

00:45:39: Caspar Hauser was not it?

00:45:41: That's a nice example.

00:45:43: He was taken as a baby into an isolated room

00:45:46: and fed only by a flap or something like that.

00:45:49: But there was no physical contact, no touch,

00:45:51: no intimacy, no socialization.

00:45:54: And I shine here with dangerous half-knowledge.

00:45:57: I don't know with what age he died,

00:45:59: but he died very early as a child, as a teenager.

00:46:03: He didn't get very old, because this physicality,

00:46:07: this connection, closeness, socialization, we need as

00:46:11: humans.

00:46:11: That means your fear of rejection is first of all

00:46:14: too deeply justified.

00:46:16: Recognition that if you are rejected,

00:46:18: that it is no longer rational today,

00:46:21: that it is no longer true,

00:46:23: that your animal part in you,

00:46:27: the herdsman in you, doesn't know that.

00:46:29: It believes that if you are rejected,

00:46:31: if you are excluded from the group,

00:46:33: if you are expelled, you are not survivable,

00:46:35: because that used to be the case.

00:46:37: When we separated from the herd, from the group,

00:46:40: we survived alone.

00:46:41: As women, five times not.

00:46:43: Women are often afraid of rejection

00:46:45: and that has these reasons, among other things.

00:46:48: Because the men were the caretakers in the past

00:46:50: and that is still stored in us.

00:46:52: And when we separated from the group in the past,

00:46:54: that meant death.

00:46:56: And that is inside us.

00:46:58: And to recognize that, ah, I'm afraid of that.

00:47:01: Because if you ask the people in coaching,

00:47:04: what is behind rejection and behind it?

00:47:06: And behind it, it is usually not the original fear,

00:47:08: but behind it is another fear.

00:47:11: And with this rejection of fear,

00:47:13: you actually always come out on one thing with everyone,

00:47:17: namely, I'm afraid of dying.

00:47:19: This is often the case with rejection of fear.

00:47:22: I'm afraid of dying.

00:47:24: And now, from today's point of view, of course,

00:47:27: to injustice, but an unconsciousness in this body,

00:47:31: but this animalistic part in us,

00:47:34: is that a fear that is justified

00:47:36: and that can be recognized.

00:47:38: So, don't reject yourself for that,

00:47:41: that you are afraid of rejection.

00:47:43: I wanted to emphasize that again,

00:47:45: that it is important to say yes to this again,

00:47:48: not to judge yourself, not to reject it from yourself.

00:47:51: There is a reason why it is there.

00:47:54: A good reason, it saves you.

00:47:57: And then I can repeat everything you said.

00:48:01: What is your vision? What attracts you?

00:48:04: Why do you do what you do?

00:48:07: And then, this is also a nice check,

00:48:10: is what you do really your heart's desire

00:48:12: or does it come from the head?

00:48:14: Because if it really comes from your heart,

00:48:18: then this vision that you have,

00:48:20: your why, will be greater than your rejection of fear.

00:48:23: You still do it.

00:48:25: When it comes from your heart, you will notice,

00:48:27: you will always be in a mess.

00:48:29: You will not do it, you will not do this and that,

00:48:31: do this and that, because the fear of rejection

00:48:33: is greater than and it governs you,

00:48:35: because what you want to do,

00:48:37: does not really come from your heart,

00:48:39: but from your head.

00:48:41: And then it has no existence.

00:48:43: It has no existence against doubting,

00:48:45: against rejection.

00:48:47: Then you stop after the first rejection.

00:48:49: But when it comes from your heart,

00:48:51: then you can get ten rejections,

00:48:53: because this vision pulls you,

00:48:55: it is greater, it pulls you forward.

00:48:58: But I think that's a nice,

00:49:00: indirectly nice check.

00:49:04: You can use the rejection of fear

00:49:06: to check your desire,

00:49:08: to check your goal.

00:49:10: Is that something from the heart

00:49:12: or from the head?

00:49:14: Exactly. And then there is this nice sentence,

00:49:16: what Peter says about Paul,

00:49:18: says more about Peter than about Paul.

00:49:21: When other people speak bad about you,

00:49:24: bad is always a sign that this person

00:49:26: is dissatisfied with himself.

00:49:28: It says more about the person

00:49:31: who speaks badly about you than about you.

00:49:33: Someone who is in peace with himself,

00:49:35: who is pure, he does not speak badly about others,

00:49:38: he has something better to do.

00:49:40: That means you can actually only send love to people,

00:49:43: offer a hug,

00:49:45: it has nothing to do with you

00:49:47: if someone else speaks badly about you.

00:49:50: Nothing to do with you,

00:49:52: but with the person,

00:49:54: with his inner life, with their inner world.

00:49:57: And the memory again,

00:50:00: the person rejects the image of you,

00:50:03: what this person has done about you

00:50:05: because of their experiences,

00:50:07: beliefs, not yourself,

00:50:10: not what you really are, your essence.

00:50:12: It can't be helped.

00:50:14: Yes, that's right.

00:50:16: Exactly. And what you also said

00:50:19: as a last repeat,

00:50:21: what you also said, Benjamin,

00:50:23: you don't have to like everyone.

00:50:25: Let go of the claim that you have to be for everyone.

00:50:27: Find your niche.

00:50:29: Find your niche. You don't have to get everyone.

00:50:31: You can't get everyone.

00:50:33: Find your niche, find your expertise.

00:50:35: It can be a very small area,

00:50:37: but this small area is then very valuable

00:50:39: for the people you do it for.

00:50:41: And let go of the expectation of yourself

00:50:43: that you have to be for everyone.

00:50:45: You can't. If you are not, you don't have to.

00:50:47: You don't have to like everyone.

00:50:49: And there is a lot of freedom in that.

00:50:51: When you recognize this truth,

00:50:53: that what you do, say,

00:50:55: doesn't have to be liked and understood by everyone.

00:50:59: Only in this truth,

00:51:01: that what you do, do and say

00:51:03: doesn't have to be liked and understood by everyone.

00:51:09: That's peace then.

00:51:11: Yes.

00:51:13: Yes.

00:51:15: Do it for those, for those it's important.

00:51:19: Focus on those

00:51:21: who you help with.

00:51:23: Focus on those who want to hear you.

00:51:25: Who need you.

00:51:27: There is enough of that.

00:51:29: Don't focus on those, who don't give a shit.

00:51:31: They will always give.

00:51:33: Focus on those, for those you do it for.

00:51:35: Who need it.

00:51:37: And you will be needed.

00:51:39: You have a gift and you will be needed.

00:51:41: And for those people you do it.

00:51:43: Super nice.

00:51:47: Okay.

00:51:53: Then we come to the last question for today.

00:51:55: The topic is overstimulation in our time.

00:52:01: And how do I regulate myself?

00:52:03: I would actually ask you to start.

00:52:09: Yes.

00:52:11: That's a bit of a target for the nervous system.

00:52:19: Sympathetic, parasympathetic.

00:52:21: Sympathetic is the part that gets active

00:52:25: in fear, panic, fight or flight mode.

00:52:29: That's the sympathetic.

00:52:31: He's good.

00:52:33: He also has good sides.

00:52:35: We need him when we have to run away,

00:52:37: fight, defend ourselves.

00:52:39: He's part of this nervous system.

00:52:43: And parasympathetic is more responsible for

00:52:47: when we're meditating, for example.

00:52:49: When we do yoga gently.

00:52:51: That's the part of calm, calmness,

00:52:55: balance.

00:52:57: And to regulate that,

00:52:59: that's what it depends on.

00:53:01: How can we regulate these nervous system conditions?

00:53:03: That we're not always

00:53:05: in a state of synpanic.

00:53:07: In this fear mode, stress mode,

00:53:09: that the synpanic is activated.

00:53:11: What is the majority of people

00:53:13: in the West like

00:53:15: without us realizing it,

00:53:17: are we constantly tense,

00:53:19: constantly stressed, unconscious?

00:53:21: And how can we regulate ourselves

00:53:25: to get into this

00:53:27: state of parasympathetic?

00:53:29: To find more relaxation,

00:53:31: calmness, and so on?

00:53:33: That's what the question is about.

00:53:35: And it's similar to

00:53:39: what you said at the beginning

00:53:41: with your answer

00:53:43: to how we can be more relaxed.

00:53:45: All the points you mentioned

00:53:47: can be easily used here.

00:53:49: Meditation, yoga, breathing technique,

00:53:51: ice bathing is great.

00:53:53: And things like that.

00:53:59: Find creativity,

00:54:01: whatever makes you creative,

00:54:03: that's what regulates you

00:54:05: very well.

00:54:07: Maybe you write,

00:54:09: maybe you paint,

00:54:11: draw, dance,

00:54:13: move in any form.

00:54:15: Walking in the forest,

00:54:17: walking on the ground with your naked feet

00:54:19: can be very regulating

00:54:21: for the nervous system.

00:54:23: Being in the forest,

00:54:25: breathing in fresh air,

00:54:27: removing noise,

00:54:29: natural sounds,

00:54:31: birds chirping,

00:54:33: not the loud street in front of the door.

00:54:35: Things like that.

00:54:39: But I would like to take a step

00:54:45: forward, because

00:54:47: in the scene,

00:54:49: in the whole

00:54:51: attention-seeking scene,

00:54:53: the spiroity scene, embodiment,

00:54:55: bodywork,

00:54:57: the trend,

00:54:59: the nervous system.

00:55:01: This is everywhere.

00:55:03: You have to regulate your nervous system,

00:55:05: you have to take your nervous system with you,

00:55:07: healing doesn't work without a nervous system.

00:55:09: And there is a truth in that.

00:55:11: Fun fact is that Kundalini Yoga

00:55:13: has been doing it for thousands of years.

00:55:15: Kundalini Yoga does nothing else

00:55:17: but to work on your chakra system

00:55:19: and energy system

00:55:21: and at the same time

00:55:23: to regulate your nervous system.

00:55:25: And techniques.

00:55:27: In Kundalini Yoga,

00:55:29: you focus on your nose tip,

00:55:31: or your third eye,

00:55:33: or your chin, your lunar point,

00:55:35: your moon point,

00:55:37: or various breathing techniques,

00:55:39: mantra chants, and so on.

00:55:41: It is an absolute trend

00:55:45: right now.

00:55:47: A super emphasis,

00:55:49: as I feel.

00:55:51: And I would like to add one more thing,

00:55:53: it can give the impression

00:55:55: that we have to

00:55:57: balance the nervous system.

00:55:59: That it is generally

00:56:01: over-enhanced and overstimulated.

00:56:03: And it is of course

00:56:05: especially in our western society,

00:56:07: in big cities,

00:56:09: there is a big truth in it

00:56:11: that we are stressed and tense

00:56:13: in a majority way,

00:56:15: definitely.

00:56:17: But I would like to emphasize

00:56:19: that our nervous system

00:56:21: is designed and built

00:56:23: for this.

00:56:25: That we can do this

00:56:27: to be stressed.

00:56:29: And that it makes sense

00:56:31: that we can always fall back in there.

00:56:33: And that it should not be

00:56:35: an over-emphasis

00:56:37: but a parasympathetic,

00:56:39: to be in this relaxation permanently.

00:56:41: The desire, the expectation

00:56:45: to let go of yourself.

00:56:47: Because that only causes stress

00:56:49: and you think you always have to be relaxed.

00:56:51: Our body is built

00:56:53: and designed in such a way that

00:56:55: we can withstand this state,

00:56:57: this swing of the sympathetic,

00:56:59: so tension, stress, adrenaline,

00:57:01: relaxation, rest, well.

00:57:03: Can balance well.

00:57:05: And I think

00:57:07: it's about resilience.

00:57:09: How can we make

00:57:11: the nervous system more resilient?

00:57:13: And that includes both states.

00:57:15: But it does not include

00:57:17: the fact that we should

00:57:19: let go of this sympathetic.

00:57:21: It helps us too.

00:57:23: The sympathetic is not only active

00:57:25: when you are stressed,

00:57:27: when adrenaline is there,

00:57:29: when you are afraid,

00:57:31: but when you are in joy,

00:57:33: in ecstasy, in orgasm,

00:57:35: in a pure excitement,

00:57:37: then you are also a sympathetic.

00:57:39: It's good that it's there,

00:57:41: that we can do this,

00:57:43: that we can feel excitement, joy, ecstasy.

00:57:45: It's not just

00:57:47: because of fear and

00:57:49: stress and so on.

00:57:51: I wanted to emphasize that again.

00:57:53: It's more about

00:57:55: recognizing that it makes sense

00:57:57: that you are in a sympathetic,

00:57:59: in stress, in fear,

00:58:01: and that you are built

00:58:03: for this.

00:58:05: Trust your body,

00:58:07: it can withstand this.

00:58:09: And when you go out of the way,

00:58:11: it regulates itself on its own.

00:58:13: The body is a miracle work

00:58:15: that regulates itself on its own.

00:58:17: You can do all these techniques,

00:58:19: breathing meditation, yoga,

00:58:21: ice bathing,

00:58:23: and it will be very, very, very useful.

00:58:25: And at the same time,

00:58:29: maybe try to do nothing.

00:58:31: Don't want to do something,

00:58:37: want to change, trust that

00:58:39: your nervous system, and it can do it,

00:58:41: because the nervous system can

00:58:43: regulate itself on its own.

00:58:45: Trust your body.

00:58:47: And...

00:58:49: Exactly.

00:58:51: Again, the one condition

00:58:53: to evaluate it as better or worse.

00:58:55: The evaluation makes it

00:58:57: difficult again.

00:58:59: But yes.

00:59:01: But of course,

00:59:03: everything you start,

00:59:05: you can rewind everything you start,

00:59:07: Benjamin said, is the first question.

00:59:09: Your tips,

00:59:11: five points or so, I think,

00:59:13: they apply here too.

00:59:15: You can regulate yourself well.

00:59:17: And then find your technique that works best for you.

00:59:19: Unless it's painting

00:59:21: and not meditating at all.

00:59:23: Or something else.

00:59:25: Music.

00:59:27: Binaural beats are also something like that

00:59:31: with meditation music.

00:59:33: Binaural beats are very specific frequencies

00:59:35: that also

00:59:37: can bring you into a state of

00:59:39: calmness, harmony,

00:59:41: can remove cortisol,

00:59:43: can remove certain frequencies.

00:59:47: I wanted to go back

00:59:57: to the question of the word

00:59:59: overstimulation.

01:00:01: Throw it.

01:00:05: I'll just blow it up.

01:00:07: I don't know the exact numbers

01:00:11: and the scientists

01:00:13: can probably argue about it.

01:00:15: But I think it's part of

01:00:17: our today's world

01:00:19: that on one day

01:00:21: we are exposed to so many

01:00:23: external attractions

01:00:25: like a person in the middle age

01:00:27: where the average age is 30, 40 years

01:00:29: in his whole life.

01:00:33: Yes.

01:00:35: Have you ever heard of this theory?

01:00:37: Yes, but I heard it even more closely.

01:00:39: Yes, tell us. How do you know that?

01:00:41: I know it like this and I believe it too.

01:00:43: A person in the middle age

01:00:45: sees

01:00:47: his whole life

01:00:49: in his whole

01:00:51: life span

01:00:53: so many people

01:00:55: that we see on one day.

01:00:57: Different people, right?

01:00:59: Yes, different people, I think.

01:01:01: In the middle age, you imagine

01:01:03: that in a German village.

01:01:05: Of course, we see

01:01:07: so many people on one day,

01:01:09: from me in one week, let it be one week,

01:01:11: but someone in the middle age

01:01:13: has his whole life and of course

01:01:15: it does something to us

01:01:17: about attraction. We are in the supermarket

01:01:19: standing in front of the cheese shelf

01:01:21: in case you don't eat vegan

01:01:23: and have an exceptional possibility

01:01:25: of 50 kinds of cheese. That's sick.

01:01:27: That's really an attraction

01:01:29: and that's where it's worth it.

01:01:31: And someone else says

01:01:33: that's the best thing there is.

01:01:35: That's also a rating.

01:01:37: Someone else says, maybe it's great

01:01:39: that it's such a big cheese shop.

01:01:41: I can eat cheese every day.

01:01:43: Totally. Good that you say it.

01:01:45: In any case, it's a kind of

01:01:47: perspective.

01:01:49: So thank you.

01:01:51: Exactly, because maybe it was very

01:01:53: exhausting for me, this view.

01:01:55: I can only say from my experience

01:01:57: with the people I work with

01:01:59: that it leads to an absolute

01:02:01: challenge to have too much

01:02:03: choice and that

01:02:05: leads to being unhappy.

01:02:07: And there are actually even studies

01:02:09: on this. The more your

01:02:11: exceptional possibilities are, the more

01:02:13: you have the feeling that if I

01:02:15: take A and not B, C, D, F, G, H,

01:02:17: what is it then?

01:02:19: Then I made a mistake.

01:02:21: That makes you very unhappy

01:02:23: while people who can only choose

01:02:25: two things or only one

01:02:27: are more happy

01:02:29: because they see this

01:02:31: head cinema.

01:02:33: What if

01:02:35: the fear of missing out is a disease

01:02:37: of our society,

01:02:39: of the younger generation,

01:02:41: the fear of missing out, the fear of

01:02:43: missing out on something.

01:02:45: That has us

01:02:47: in a slumber, in a whirlwind. The fear of missing out on

01:02:57: this cheese. But maybe the other 49 taste better.

01:02:57: This over-reaction makes you unhappy.

01:03:00: Scientifically proven.

01:03:02: Let's talk about shopping. Maybe

01:03:04: with one or the other woman.

01:03:06: I'm far from generalizing,

01:03:09: but there are women who do

01:03:11: buy shoes.

01:03:13: They see the best pair,

01:03:15: the price is perfect, the color is

01:03:17: exactly what they want, but they don't

01:03:19: buy them because they might

01:03:21: have a better pair in the next store.

01:03:23: Yes.

01:03:25: Yes.

01:03:27: And everything is very human.

01:03:29: Yes, of course.

01:03:31: Not so strict with yourself.

01:03:33: Yes.

01:03:35: But again,

01:03:37: from my perspective,

01:03:39: over-stimulation.

01:03:41: If you live in a big city

01:03:43: or in a smaller city,

01:03:45: there is a difference

01:03:47: what kind of stimulation

01:03:49: comes to you from the outside

01:03:51: through sounds and

01:03:53: through the eyes and ears.

01:03:55: You can

01:03:57: influence that very little

01:03:59: if you stress the city.

01:04:01: Because you're thinking about whether you should move

01:04:03: abroad.

01:04:03: But what kind of things

01:04:05: you can implement immediately,

01:04:07: in terms of stimulation,

01:04:09: is your cell phone,

01:04:11: your smartphone, your iPhone,

01:04:13: your Android.

01:04:15: What is one of the first

01:04:17: things that I

01:04:19: continue

01:04:21: when I work with someone

01:04:23: is notifications,

01:04:25: cell phones,

01:04:27: all off.

01:04:29: No WhatsApp, no Telegram,

01:04:31: no Instagram.

01:04:33: All notifications turn off.

01:04:37: Yes, 110 percent.

01:04:39: All pop-ups are gone.

01:04:41: All pop-ups are gone.

01:04:43: Exactly.

01:04:45: Letting a red light shine.

01:04:47: That stresses and stresses and stresses.

01:04:49: I have now

01:04:51: discovered a great app for me.

01:04:53: It's called OneSec.

01:04:55: One second.

01:04:57: And it does the following.

01:04:59: Whenever I have

01:05:01: selected an app,

01:05:03: I can do that on different apps.

01:05:05: The Instagram app, for example.

01:05:07: It opens for a fraction of a second.

01:05:09: Then this OneSec app comes,

01:05:11: throws itself in front of it

01:05:13: and does

01:05:15: one breath out.

01:05:17: It goes for three seconds.

01:05:19: And that gets you out of this

01:05:21: automatism immediately,

01:05:23: just because you're bored.

01:05:25: In 50 to 70 percent

01:05:27: of all cases,

01:05:29: I can do this one conscious breath,

01:05:31: one breath out,

01:05:33: and consciously decide

01:05:35: not to open the app.

01:05:37: The Instagram app.

01:05:39: Ah, cool.

01:05:41: That's so awesome.

01:05:43: I'll put it in the show notes.

01:05:45: It will definitely

01:05:47: be a great

01:05:49: option for Android users.

01:05:51: And the nice thing is,

01:05:53: it even counts.

01:05:55: In the last 24 hours, you have tried

01:05:57: to open the app 30 times.

01:05:59: But 20 times you have

01:06:01: successfully managed

01:06:03: to not open it.

01:06:05: That's a great tool.

01:06:07: And then

01:06:09: you can really become aware of

01:06:11: YouTube, for example.

01:06:13: We're running YouTube now.

01:06:15: YouTube is a great platform.

01:06:17: You can listen to

01:06:19: incredibly great podcasts,

01:06:21: videos, reproduce yourself,

01:06:23: watch how you repair

01:06:25: the washing machine.

01:06:27: You can do meditation.

01:06:29: There's just everything there.

01:06:31: There's a lot of garbage

01:06:33: that just distracts you

01:06:35: and, to get back,

01:06:37: overstimulates you with things,

01:06:39: also negative things,

01:06:41: negative messages, etc.

01:06:43: I got used to it, for example.

01:06:45: I like to listen to radio

01:06:47: in the early morning.

01:06:49: But as soon as the messages come, I turn it off.

01:06:51: Because everything you hear

01:06:53: I would like to compare it to.

01:06:55: It goes straight into your ear

01:06:57: and then into your brain.

01:06:59: And you can't

01:07:01: consume it anymore.

01:07:03: And when the messages are there,

01:07:05: they're usually negative.

01:07:07: Watch out, you'll get sick.

01:07:09: Watch out, it's war.

01:07:11: Watch out, it's climate.

01:07:13: Everything is bad.

01:07:15: There are no positive messages.

01:07:17: It's all negative.

01:07:19: And that's, to make it clear,

01:07:21: what comes into your ear,

01:07:23: it's just like when you're

01:07:25: at the best wedding in the world.

01:07:27: You go past the buffet

01:07:29: and everything that's there

01:07:31: goes straight into your mouth.

01:07:33: You can't resist it.

01:07:35: That's how it is with the ears.

01:07:37: You can't do anything about it.

01:07:39: And when you turn it off,

01:07:41: you look at the buffet first.

01:07:43: Then the word media competence comes in.

01:07:45: But that's a completely different topic.

01:07:47: And you really consciously decide

01:07:49: when to consume what

01:07:51: and then really only

01:07:53: what you consciously decide

01:07:55: what is good for you.

01:07:57: With that, you can control

01:08:01: this overstimulation

01:08:03: at least at the points

01:08:05: on the phone or radio,

01:08:07: which you can turn on and off yourself,

01:08:09: TV, you can control a lot.

01:08:13: Yes, and when you just said

01:08:15: you can consciously decide

01:08:17: I had a loop

01:08:19: for the first time.

01:08:21: I thought, maybe the consciousness

01:08:23: that you count on,

01:08:25: because the consciousness

01:08:27: belongs to the mind,

01:08:29: which I had drawn to the soul.

01:08:31: Because consciously deciding

01:08:33: what is that,

01:08:35: discipline, willpower,

01:08:37: willpower.

01:08:39: Focus.

01:08:41: I would definitely write that to the mind.

01:08:43: Then I thought, well,

01:08:45: the consciousness is the mind.

01:08:47: Sorry, completely different topic again,

01:08:49: but I noticed that again.

01:08:51: The discussion was very valuable.

01:08:53: Absolutely right.

01:08:55: Nice.

01:08:59: I'll take a quick look

01:09:01: so we don't forget any questions.

01:09:03: I don't see anything now.

01:09:13: Maybe a little final

01:09:15: impulse from me.

01:09:19: Or a learning.

01:09:21: Because it's the mind

01:09:25: that you're concerned with,

01:09:27: or our consciousness.

01:09:29: By the way,

01:09:31: I have to come up with something now,

01:09:33: and I'll briefly introduce it here.

01:09:35: It has helped me totally

01:09:37: and I was able to integrate it

01:09:39: in my everyday life

01:09:41: from the last first episode

01:09:43: of this series on the body.

01:09:45: Your hint to become aware more often

01:09:47: of the muscles on the jaw,

01:09:49: whether they are tense or loose.

01:09:51: Yes.

01:09:53: So it's fantastic how often I get

01:09:55: caught in the fact that I'm just

01:09:57: tense and the teeth are

01:09:59: on each other without

01:10:01: any reason for it to be useful at all.

01:10:03: So now I'll take the invitation

01:10:05: to hear you again, check

01:10:07: how the jaw muscles are

01:10:09: whether they are loose or tense.

01:10:11: That has definitely helped me

01:10:13: very well.

01:10:15: I have also been able to

01:10:17: become more aware of

01:10:19: all the actions in my everyday life.

01:10:21: I used to be

01:10:23: someone who was very

01:10:25: grumpy because I

01:10:27: moved my hands and

01:10:29: the glass would fly around and so on.

01:10:31: And then I was able to

01:10:33: make really calm movements

01:10:35: and now I have a knife in my hand

01:10:37: and it expands the scope of

01:10:39: my hand, it's suddenly bigger

01:10:41: and you can drink somewhere else.

01:10:43: It's really true.

01:10:45: It's a small thing

01:10:47: to do

01:10:49: and above all, it really gives

01:10:51: all the things you do in life

01:10:53: meaning. It's not

01:10:55: that much, of course you are

01:10:57: a habit and do a lot

01:10:59: automatically, but it really gives

01:11:01: try to give meaning to

01:11:03: all the things you do

01:11:05: in the next 10 minutes.

01:11:07: Why are you doing this now?

01:11:09: Why?

01:11:11: I have no idea if you are

01:11:13: listening to this in the car or

01:11:15: wherever you are or watching.

01:11:17: Look at the next actions

01:11:19: you do, why you do them.

01:11:21: There can be very interesting

01:11:23: things coming out of it.

01:11:25: Exciting, I've never tried it.

01:11:29: I will try to

01:11:33: look at myself.

01:11:35: Give meaning to

01:11:37: life actions.

01:11:39: It's a bit like

01:11:41: what I always think and say

01:11:43: everything is holy and innocent

01:11:45: or nothing is. Does it remind you of me?

01:11:47: Do you think that maybe in that context?

01:11:49: That everything has

01:11:51: meaning

01:11:53: and everything is holy.

01:11:55: Nothing is meaningless.

01:11:57: Everything is holy.

01:11:59: The good

01:12:01: is the bad.

01:12:03: What we call bad

01:12:05: is holy and

01:12:07: meaningful.

01:12:09: The topic is not my language

01:12:11: but I feel it totally.

01:12:13: I know what you mean

01:12:15: and I agree.

01:12:17: Do you have anything else

01:12:23: you want to say?

01:12:25: Everything is ok?

01:12:27: Everything is ok.

01:12:31: Everything is good already.

01:12:33: Everything is good already.

01:12:35: You are

01:12:37: creator

01:12:39: creator of your life

01:12:41: and if you feel

01:12:43: that some change

01:12:45: is allowed

01:12:47: then it's in your hand.

01:12:51: With your willpower and your mind power

01:12:53: you could change it.

01:12:55: Now, immediately and easily

01:12:57: if you want it.

01:12:59: Because your mind is a miracle

01:13:03: limitless.

01:13:05: You are limitlessness.

01:13:07: Your consciousness is limitlessness.

01:13:09: And with that you can

01:13:11: if you want it, if a desire

01:13:13: is in your hand, also achieve

01:13:15: and change everything you want.

01:13:17: Or use it

01:13:19: this consciousness

01:13:21: this power

01:13:23: to realize that

01:13:25: now everything is already good.

01:13:27: Perfectly holy.

01:13:31: Already now.

01:13:33: There is only this moment

01:13:35: the present moment.

01:13:37: And there is nothing to improve.

01:13:39: You are already

01:13:41: fully.

01:13:43: Yes.

01:13:45: That's true.

01:13:47: Ok.

01:13:49: I want to finish

01:13:51: and I'm looking forward to the next episode

01:13:53: of the ghost. It will be great.

01:13:55: To the soul?

01:13:57: To the soul, sorry.

01:13:59: The same or?

01:14:01: I think that will be

01:14:03: really cool.

01:14:05: And I want to

01:14:07: quote

01:14:09: where I don't think

01:14:11: the author

01:14:13: or where it comes from.

01:14:15: If you recognize the potential

01:14:17: of a clans intention

01:14:19: you identify

01:14:21: yourself as creator.

01:14:23: Because you use the word creator

01:14:25: I didn't come to that.

01:14:27: If you recognize the potential

01:14:29: of a clear intention

01:14:31: you are the creator of your life.

01:14:33: I said that before

01:14:35: with the

01:14:37: questions about the most

01:14:39: narrow fear of rejection

01:14:41: to reach the goal

01:14:43: and the goal.

01:14:45: Yes.

01:14:47: Set a clear intention

01:14:49: and then

01:14:51: nothing is in your way

01:14:53: because you know exactly where you want to go

01:14:55: and then rejection

01:14:57: is not a reason for fear.

01:14:59: Exactly. Yes, really nice.

01:15:01: Nice closing word.

01:15:03: Yes,

01:15:05: thanks for listening.

01:15:07: Thanks for being part of this

01:15:09: and I'm looking forward to the next episode.

01:15:11: See you soon.

01:15:13: Me too. See you soon.

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